How Far Should We Go to Have Respect for Life?

I have just finished my dinner and settled down with my trusty iPad when, across the screen ran the tiniest ant I’ve ever seen! I’ve seen ‘em big, bigger and biggest but never as tiny as this little critter!

The first instinct was to brush him/her away but in the next nano-second I remember to have respect for any living thing, a la Buddhism. So my hand did not descend as rapidly or as strongly as it once would have. But how far do you take this respect for life?

Moths, ants, cockroaches abound. So, do we have to tolerate those invaders equally? The Buddhists, God bless them for their patience, would insist that so-called pests be allowed their right to life. Not only Buddhists of course. I was in Africa and in Lambarene in the Congo (can’t recall what it is called now) there is the hospital set up by Dr Albert Schweizer who set great store by the respect for life principle. Only problem was his compound was overrun by mosquitoes and cockroaches, to the great dismay and frustration of those who went there to learn from him.

Everywhere there were cases of malaria, treated by quinine but pesticides were not allowed. His followers were not required to be vegans so the right to life gave way to kill-for-food principles.

Modern medicine, and even farming, has had to introduce ways to kill off bacteria, fungi, insects that have been found to be responsible for fatal diseases, not to mention the problem of Hendra virus and the poor flying foxes.

Maybe we only rely on the right to life if the animal in question is cute?? Flying foxes, cats, dogs, hamsters, birds, all seem, along with other animals, to ring our sympathy bells. Would we feel the same sympathy for the Salmonella bacterium responsible for typhoid, or for the influenza virus that kills so many vulnerable people across the world?

It was easy to feel sympathy for my tiny ant as he/she presents no threat to me, is not a source of food and there are no small children here to be poisoned, if that was even possible! I have had cats and dogs treated as members of my family whose right to life was never questioned. But do I feel the same about a cockroach that might prowl my kitchen at night? Or a dog that brutally wounded my child?

There is no right answer. Food, pests, and public dangers like mouse plagues, all have to be killed as humanely as possible. Respect demands that much, surely? So my little ant goes free. Good luck to him. His life expectancy is so short anyway. Caterpillars are regarded as nasty, but

“what the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the Master calls …. a butterfly”.

Would we squash a caterpillar yet be entranced by the butterfly?

Let’s hope we are given the respect of living our own lives out as we wish, not squashed as a pest. But who knows whose ants are we??

Be well

Maura

Surround Yourself With Good Thoughts Rather Than Rubbish

When you are lying in bed, as I have been for some weeks, you have a lot of time to think, but little or no concentration to think with! Hence it took a while for me to remember to use some of the skills that I teach in my seminars.

When you are plunging in and out of pain relief, or dealing with the marathon that is ‘having a shower’, it is hard to have the energy left for meditation exercises. Yet it is exactly those exercises that come to your aid when no other person or thing is available.

There is a natural anticlimax that occurs once the crisis has passed. During those dark moments it is easy to forget the resources that we have during better times. But it is easy to remind yourself if you take a few simple steps.

How many of us have been through a phase of sticking up little feel-good notices to ourselves around the house. My bathroom has several, also the mirror in the bedroom. They have been in the same position, saying the same things, for many months. They go largely unnoticed in normal times. However, the brain does ‘see’ them and absorbs the message over time.

So recently, when I have had more time than usual, I have wondered about each one. Then I tried softly meditating on the message and why it is important to me.  So gentle was the influence of these messages that it took many days for it to become apparent that I have benefited from the internalising of the hidden meanings. Since I don’t think we should wear all of our heart’s thoughts in public, I will spare you the details. However, making an effort to surround yourself with good wise words really does pay off!

Take time to find some words that matter to you and put them up in places you can see them every day & leave them there for a while to absorb into your thinking. Who cares if visitors see them?! At least you are surrounded by good thoughts rather than rubbish, or a blank wall that is no help at all!

Take Your Relationship on Holiday

Every now and then, something comes into your realm that really
makes you sit up and pay attention.  For those of you who know me
personally will know I’m a strong advocate for cherishing
relationships, be that with family or friends.  There are so many
influences in our universe that can unwittingly tear at those
special relationships one of those is hormonal changes, another one
I value highly is time! We are experts in giving time away to
others but few of us remember to take time for ourselves to rest &
recharge.  This occurred to me recently when I became aware of
Heather Yelland’s plan to give some very lucky person a
complimentary place at her amazing 10 day event in Thailand in
June.  She even has new dates for Adelaide and Melbourne, so check
it out.
Heather is Australia’s leading relationship educator and each year
she travels the country, and the world, teaching thousands of men
and women how to better understand each other.  She is currently
doing a national tour of one day events in Australia and it is here
that she will find one person whose life will change forever.  I
really want that person to be YOU!
So, I quickly put this message together to share this exciting news
with you so you can act decisively to give yourself a chance to
take your relationship to Thailand!  All you need to do is follow
this link, find out more and register.  That way, you get a day out
for yourself, great strategies about how to better understand the
people you love, AND the chance to be THE LUCKY ONE!
Simply follow this link to secure your place:
http://www.heatheryelland.com/heart
It will bring great joy to both of us if you win!
Warm regards
Maura

Bothersome Bladder

When you have your Pap smear does your doctor ask you about your bladder? Do you find yourself leaking just a tiny bit when you cough, sneeze or laugh? Do you have to rush in the door when you get out of the car ‘cos your bladder knows your’re home?

Well you’re not alone! In the old days we had to put up with the problems. They are caused by just the smallest amount of drop in the tightness of the sphincter muscle that holds your bladder closed.  Women you have had multiple pregnancies or even just one long labour will often find that they have had a ‘crush’ effect against the bladder sphincter muscle while the baby’s head was leaning against it.  The problems don’t really arise until menopause when the general muscle tone in the pelvic area becomes lax and the neck of the bladder has dropped ever so slightly and bingo, there’s a we patch if the bladder is full!

No self respecting woman wants to grow old smelling like stale nappies.  Which is why I don’t understand the reluctance to fix or even to investigate the problem by some Gynaecologists.  Sure, there are some bladder problems that are not suitable for a quick fix but there are many that are, so let’s at least do the bladder capacity measurements that can tell which is which. If your bladder is suitable for the ‘sling’ operation, it is an easy job, done in half a day under general anesthetic. In top Gynaecologists hands, it is very successful and well worth the trial of the tests beforehand.

Using a telescope, a small incision is made on each side of the pubic bone and a tape is inserted to go down behind the bladder neck and it is then tightened to lift up the drooping bladder neck and make it easy for the muscles to close. Voila!

The operation is NOT for everyone, alas. And there can be complications, but if it is suitable for you ten it is a life-changing thing to do. So ask, ask, ask. Get the relevant tests done and see if your bladder is suitable and go for it. At least if you get the urge to be intimate, there will be no ammonia odour to you (or him) off!!

Happy Hormones!