Dr Maura McGill | Menopause | Magical Menopause | Menopause Cure

This May Surprise You!

Something that may surprise you is that when a woman goes through menopause her husband will often come into alignment and also experience hormonal imbalances. However, I was recently asked “Do women come into alignment with men?” the answer is not as much. We women dominate the hormone scene because our hormone levels are so frequently changing i.e. they go up and down on a monthly basis whereas men’s hormones are not cyclical like ours so he is more likely to be affected by our cycle and come into alignment with us when we are in menopause.

Having said that once your husband’s hormones start to change and start to give him grief, which they do in midlife it affects us as well as them. We suddenly look around and say ‘Tarzan has disappeared and I’ve been left with an elf’! Tarzan melts down into elf size when his hormones go wrong which can often cause us to start asking ourselves “Is it me, is he giving his Tarzan to someone else, or is he really not the man I thought he was?”

But for a man it’s not a cyclical influence it’s a daily influence. And in their midlife they have to keep proving they are ‘a man’ whether it’s by cars, escapades, risk taking or some bravery that has to be displayed to prove that they are still Tarzan!

Some of these behaviors are not acceptable so when they come to me feeling more like an elf (which they wont of course admit to) with Testosterone levels around 6 when they should be around 15-20, (as a young man its about 30) I give him his testosterone to get him back in the saddle and suddenly he is making better decisions, loves his wife, doesn’t have to prove anything to anyone, he feels good and, it’s so much better than Viagra!

Unlike Viagra (which personally I object ideologically to) men in midlife are being encouraged in today’s society to believe that life is all about an erection. There is more to sex than the erection. Whereas testosterone is an all day phenomenon and, an all night phenomenon and will have similar affects to Viagra but it will affect the whole body energy around sex.

When the testosterone levels are up its not just about the sex, its about feeling like a whole man, it’s about the manhood, the seduction, the feeling in tune with each other, and the flirting.

So you see hormonal re balancing is not just for women!

Is Viagra Really The Answer?

Lots of men come to me with varying degrees of sexual dysfunction. Most want more, i.e. more sex, more desire and more functionality. Many have tried Viagra, Cialis etc etc. But somehow there is something still missing.

When I question them about whether they have ever had their hormones measured, almost all of them look at me blankly. So I measure them. A man can have a;

A) low level of testosterone and a

B) low libido, and

C) low performance, the trifecta.

Or, he can have any one or two of those without the third. It is important to establish which is missing.

When I find a low testosterone in a man, the first thing to do is to raise it up, preferably with natural hormones, although there are effective proprietary ones on the market too, including long-acting injectables. They are synthetic, but at least they have the advantage that he is unlikely to transfer any testosterone to his partner as when they use cream testosterone!

However, that may not be the answer, even then. With a normal, or almost normal testosterone level, if he still feels there is something missing, but his hormones are OK, then something else is missing. Is it desire that is missing, or performance?

If it is desire that is missing, that is going on between his ears, not between his legs. He needs to explore why that may be so. He may be tolerating a so-so relationship with his wife/partner, and he may even admit the desire is OK when he is away from home somewhere. But if a man really has a true low libido, he often is not complaining, it is often his partner that is complaining, and that can be explored too.

If the desire is normal, the testosterone is normal, then it may be the vascular supply to his penis that is affected. This is most often due to blood pressure tablets, although doctors are getting better at recognising those side effects and moving the patient to other tablets. Sometimes the vascular supply is affected by alcohol, smoking, diabetes, to mention a few. If that is the case, then Viagra etc may be the only answer.

But patients are very grateful when the whole spectrum of possibilities is explored for them to see where their problem lies, and what the possible answers are.

Regards

Maura

This May Surprise You!

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